Dos and Don'ts of Anger Management

When you’re obligated to take court-ordered anger management classes for the first time, you may not know what to expect. You might even feel apprehension, shame, or anxiety at the prospect of discussing your anger candidly. However, it’s important to keep in mind that you’ll be learning in a judgement-free environment, especially if you take an online course. Below are a few tips we’ve gathered to help you get the most out of your experience.

Do:

- Keep an open mind. You’ve probably seen anger management classes portrayed on TV and in movies. Your experience will likely be very different from these portrayals. Go in with as few expectations as possible — flexibility is key. This way, you’ll be more receptive to the new information you’ll receive.

- Understand that anger is normal. Everyone gets angry sometimes. It’s a normal, healthy emotion that helps us protect ourselves in different situations. It is a tool that can be used productively, as well as destructively.

- Remember you’re not alone. Intense, uncontrollable anger is a very common problem. You’re not alone in experiencing these feelings. Because many people struggle with anger, there are many different treatments available — and that’s good news.

Don’t:

- Blame others for your anger. We can’t control what others say or do. All we can do is try to control our own feelings. We’re entirely responsible for our actions and words.

- Try to speed through the course. Anger management courses offer valuable resources and advice for people struggling with rage. You’ll likely learn something new about yourself and anger in general.

- Vent to friends and family. Sharing your feelings with others can be helpful, but only when you learn to do so in a productive way. Simply complaining or putting yourself and others down isn’t a productive way to manage your anger.