What to Do When Your Partner is Ordered to Take Anger Management Courses, Pt. 2

In our last post, we covered some general tips that you can use to help your partner as they complete their court ordered anger management courses. In this post, we’ll go over some more ways that you can help them become a better person through their courses.

Reflect

Reflecting on your own behavior does not mean blaming yourself for your partner’s anger. It is an important tool when it comes to helping your partner manage your anger. Think about whether or not you do anything to escalate arguments, or if you try to resolve them. This could be a chance for both of you to improve your role in the relationship and come out of this experience stronger.

Pick Your Battles

Exercise restraint when it comes to your differences. Every single couple has a million things that they can fight about, but it’s important to figure out what is worth the time and energy, and what you can let go. Your partner will be learning this in their courses as well.

Bide Your Time

When your partner is angry, they are not thinking straight. If you have an issue that needs to be addressed, try to bring it up when your partner is calm and has the ability to discuss the problem rationally. This will help them learn to communicate without anger.

Be a Cheerleader

Let them know that you appreciate their efforts to get better. If they are doing well in their courses, tell them you are proud of them. If they hear encouragement from the person they love, they will make an even stronger effort to manage their anger and excel in their court ordered classes.

Your partner is not in this alone. With your help, they can complete their anger management courses, become a better person, and be better able to build their future with you.